Raising daughters that are on the verge of becoming teenagers is no easy task. In a fairly short period of time they will be more independent than you can possibly imagine. These next few years are critical in helping to shape the person she will become in her teen and adult years.
To help your daughter grow up strong, independent, confident, and kind, be sure to share these important lessons with her, through conversations, comments and your actions.
Teach her how to say no
This is something that is essential to living a well-balanced and stress-free life, but something many people never learn. Saying no involves everything from not feeling comfortable doing something, to being pressured into being intimate with someone, or even just saying no to helping someone with something she doesn’t have time for. Saying no encompasses so many things, but they all come down to one thing: your daughter needs to know she has the right to say no whenever she doesn’t want to do something, can’t do it, or doesn’t feel right doing it.
Tell her to be kind
An important thing to start telling your daughter even at a young age is that she should always be kind to others. This is a really good lesson to teach kids from toddler age to teenagers and even into adulthood. You want your daughter to be a nice person that is open, honest, and treats others with respect. Teach her that even during moments when being kind is the last thing she wants to be, she should always remember humans make mistakes and that forgiving them and being the better person is sometimes the only thing she can do.
Show her you are proud of her
Your daughter should always be told that you are proud of her. Show pride in everything she does and succeeds at, even if the results were not quite what you expected. Tweens really crave this type of attention from their parents, and girls can be sensitive about accomplishing something and not getting proper recognition for it. You can really help your daughter raise her own personal confidence and self-esteem by showing that you are proud of her efforts and accomplishments.
Tell her the importance of friendships
Girls should know how important it is to have girlfriends in her life. Friends are essential at all ages, as they can help you when it feels like nobody else is there for you. In addition to the importance of family, her friends become the people that she can trust with personal information, she calls up at 2am for a ride, or just that are there to support her when her life isn’t going the way she planned.
Remind her you are always there for her
It’s pretty common knowledge that raising daughters can be challenging during the preteen and teenage years. With their ever-changing moods and need for more independence, parenting through these years can be a rough ride. No matter how ridiculous you might think she is acting, you never want to shut down communication between the two of you. Make sure she knows that she can come to you at any time to talk about things, and you will be there to help her when she needs it.
These are just a few of the things to tell your tween daughter. What lessons do you think are most important to share with your daughter?