She is more.
There’s something that happens when girls hit a certain age. We start to judge them by the size of their body, the clothes they wear, the friends they choose, the photos they post, the things we think they should and shouldn’t do and who we believe they should or shouldn’t be. We focus on the things they need to change (think: their attitude, their clothes, their minds) instead of focusing on all the positive things they already have (think: assertiveness, confidence, an opinion). And frankly, we’re crushing their power.
If there is one thing I have learned from working with girls it’s that their power is immeasurable when it’s encouraged and given safe space to grow. The problem is, there is so much pressure on them from so many different angles that they have no idea what that would even look like. Unless we show them.
The greatest gift we can offer our girls is to empower them to recognize that they are worthy exactly as they are without changing a thing. That regardless of what the world tells them, they are more. To save them from all the work so many of us women have to do to re-write the stories we were told – that is everything.
Here are three things you can do right now to show your girls that they are worthy and powerful:
1. Acknowledge your own power
I’m sure it’s not fresh news to tell you that your girls are watching you. She’s watching the things you say about yourself and your body. She’s watching the way you speak up, rise up, and connect with other women. She’s always watching. One of the most powerful gifts you can offer her is to choose your words about yourself and YOUR power kindly. If she believes that YOU believe you are worthy exactly as you are she’s a whole lot more likely to believe it about herself. This does not mean that you can’t be honest about your struggles and open about how to care for them it simply means that they more she sees you stepping into your power and your worth the easier it’ll be to believe you when you tell her about hers.
2. Talk about the tough stuff without judgement
Girls CONSTANTLY feel judged even when they aren’t being judged. Remember what that was like? The worst. Every girl needs at least someone or somewhere that they can go where they feel completely safe to share. Sometimes the things she shares will cause that parent muscle to flex and your first instinct will be to say “NO! DON’T DO IT!” (I’m not even a parent and my muscle flexes so much of the time!) But, before you do, remember that she’s feeling safe enough to share with you. Ask her if she wants advice or if she just needs you to listen. THAT is powerful. Putting the ball in her court, asking what she needs, and then giving it.
I’m starting up an online safe space girls group that will run for 8 weeks consecutively throughout the year. Total judgement free zone – email me to find out more or to register your daughter!
3. Show her that she is more
If there is one thing every single girl in the world needs to know it’s that she is more – more than the size of her body, the stereotypes, their comments, the judgement, the nastiness, her mistakes, her anxiety, her fear, all of it. She is more. Show her that she is the one who gets to define who she is and what she does. And trust that she will.
You can grab her an “I AM MORE” t-shirt or sweatshirt to seal the deal.
I truly believe that the best thing we can do for our girls is recognize the things that we struggle with as women and do everything in our power to create change while strengthening her ability to write her own story and overcome the tough stuff.
You got this! And I’ve got your back. We’re all in this together.
Stephanie Dawn Elizabeth
About Stephanie Dawn Elizabeth
Stephanie Dawn Elizabeth is a Certified Inner Kindness Coach + Mentor for Girls, Amazon Bestselling Author, YouTuber, and all around lover of GIRL POWER. Stephanie has been working with girls to change the way they think, feel, and talk about themselves in order to feel more worthy for over 5 years. Her mission in life and in business is to empower girls everywhere to recognize and own their power. Follow Stephanie on Instagram and Facebook @StephanieDawnElizabeth, StephanieTO1 on YouTube and at stephaniedawnelizabeth.com.