Rules are your best friend
Rules for your tween are not a bad thing. I am constantly shocked by the lack of rules that children have. They should not be seen as punishments but as expectations. As a parent it is my job to help my daughter become the best that she can be. I am going to make mistakes – just like my parents did – and that is ok.
The rules in our household are pretty basic. They are not hard to keep, but I expect them to be kept as much as possible. I believe that they have helped shaped my daughter into the kind, polite and thoughtful individual that she is becoming. My DD is 12 – these rules are simple and will change as she gets older.
- Brush your teeth and wash your face in the morning and at night
- Make your bed every morning
- Dirty clothes go in your hamper, if you want them washed (I do not wash what is left on the floor or under the bed!)
- Once you are done eating, dirty dishes go to the sink (when she is 13, loading and unloading the dishwasher will become a chore)
- Bedtime is 10:00pm
- Homework always comes first before activities, the computer, and playdates
Rules teaches responsibility
Many kids today do not like going to summer camps or playing on teams because they do not like the rules. Sadly I have heard many stories where kids say there are more rules at camp than at home! “Coaches are too strict, what’s their problem?” The problem is that our generation has to realize that rules are good for our kids. We are their parents first and their friends second.
I give my daughter an allowance every Friday. It reflects the fact that she is respecting the rules which make life easier for all of us. More importantly, she is learning the value of money. We can’t always get what we want, when we want it. She has a bank account with spending money and is so proud when she can buy what she really wants with her own money.
Rules also help to make them responsible. Rules and manners are life skills that are taught from day one. I feel sorry for the children who have none. These simple rules are the groundwork for rules to come. Internet use, curfews, dating….and so much more.
I am calling them rules but they are expectations. We are both a lot happier having them. I am very proud of the person my daughter is becoming.
What rules do you set for your tween? How long have you had the rules?
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About Julie Brunjes
Julie has spent twelve years in the Events Industry, specializing in creating Themed Events for Corporate Events, Trade Shows, Conference, Galas, Fundraisers, Weddings and Private Functions. Stardust Events has won many National Awards for their work and through ISES has had nominations for their work on an international level. Julie was awarded the Spirit of the Industry Award for outstanding contributions to the Canadian Event Industry. Stardust Events takes your idea and creates the environment.